Improving Your Pick Up Ability

The Fashion of the Pickup Artist Pt.2

(continued from part 1)

I've tried peacocking myself. I did this maybe a couple times when I heard that other guys were doing it, just to see if it worked.

When I went out I felt ridiculous and was totally incongruent with my personality.

Women pay attention to fashion and like a well-dressed man, as we all know.

I noticed that some of my best pickups occurred when I was in my workout clothes, or I was wearing something really basic - like jeans and a tanktop.

At the same time, I'd see muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or super-tight shirts at the club, and women definitely did not respond well to this.

This make me think... that maybe this is not on how much the clothes cost or how flashy they are...

Maybe there's something else aside from that.

Actually, there are two things going on, and you must manage, or balance these two things.

First and foremost, never seek approval from women. If a woman can tell that you are trying to impress her or make her like you, you are toast.

So if you look like you got dressed with the intention of getting women's attention, they'll see you coming a mile a way and put up their defenses.

You DON'T have to look like a pick up artist.

To dress modestly and not put too much thought into it avails much.

However, you need to present yourself in the best way you can and not to look sloppy.

This comes back to self-expression.

You already have a sense of what kind of guy you are, what your "scene" is, what you think is cool.

Don't change that.

Instead, improve it, with these simple tweaks.

Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color. This isn't rocket science. You can look online or go to n upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this.

Next is to make sure that your clothes are clean, wrinkle free and reasonably updated.  A woman will not worry about bringing you around her friends.

Lastly, make sure that your garments are well-fitted, in other words, they EMPHASIZE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.

Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your shoulders.

Put on a pants that make your legs look long and thin.

Put on a shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.

Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a nice haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks great and take it all the way.

One other thing...

Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."

I don't want to talk too much because that's a whole other topic because that's a whole other topic. Just use your intuition with this one.

Fashion For The Pickup Artist Pt. 1

I am NOT the most fashion savvy guy in the world.

I usually let my girlfriend pick out clothes for me - not for MY benefit..

... but so that she doesn't feel embarrassed when we go out in public together!

If it were me to pick the clothes, I'd wear a sweats and T-shirt all day, together with an old worn sneakers. It means that I think a fashion as silly.

I definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion style and design. It is like a work of art when I look at a very well dressed woman, I dig that.

But when a guy is "too stylish" I kinda lose respect for him.

Don't get it wrong, a guy should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A good quality, nice and well-fitting clothes are a fundamental to masculine expression.

But some men take it too far.

Case in point, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup Community for the past several years.

Hearing that words makes me cringe.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

Let me explain what is "peacocking," in case you're not familiar.

There was an emergence of routine-based "game" a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

I never saw the value of any of this, and have always gone in the opposite direction.

Reason for this is that I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and saying jokes and routines that other guys came up with JUST FELT WRONG.

The PRIMARY FOCUS of all these strategy and game-playing was to visibly get approval from women, but making them feel insecure and they'd think you were cooler than them.

Think of this bullshit layers in the approach to dating. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) seek approval (as if women has an authority on what makes man a man)

b) keep the fact that you're seeking approval

c) play games with women so that they feel insecure and try to seek your approval

YUCK

To dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you is a kind of "peacock,". And "peacock" is one of the main techniques in approaching women.

Now there's nothing wrong with wearing a nice watch, or a necklace that has some personal meaning.

But don't do it to make women like you.

I'm sure many guys have seen the advocates of this approach on TV shows,straining to make sense out of this hare-brained "technique."

It's sad to say that some students of other pickup schools that I've encountered,  were not only nervous, misdirected, clumsy, they looked RETARDED.

So I want to set the record straight when it comes to fashion and meeting women.

There are only a handful of things you need to pay attention to when it comes to your appearance.

After you have handled this stuff, you should place it out of your mind, and that you shouldn't wait for women to notice you before TAKING AN ACTION.

Before moving on, I have something to expose.

(Continued in Part 2)

The Power of TOUCH on your Storytelling

This is now the third part of the storytelling technique.

And what I am about to share with you is a very powerful technique and it ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.
 
This technique is adding TOUCH to your stories. As an example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."
 
This really helps paint the picture of your story and get your audience more involved.
 
Only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story. If you are using something like the arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm.
 
An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).
 
The key for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.
 
Another fun thing to sprinkle into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability. These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.
 
These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
 
In my story, I do often mentioning other women. And you can try this and you can change it to "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.
 
This have to be subtle and never be the focused of your story.
 
To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't give an explanation for it, instead go on with your story, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
 
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
 
Cross off all unnecessary content and make sure your story is moving along and does not dies out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story. Be sure to eliminate redundancies.
 
For now...you just have to aim for about 2 minutes stories.
 
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. A masterful storyteller could capture the audience attention for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes.
 
Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention and for you to look for clues of people fading out so that you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.

Looking back at the original example of...
 
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
 
So here is the FINAL revised version of my story. Enjoy:
 
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
 
Group: "blah blah"
 
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
 
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
 
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.
 
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).
 
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
 
Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
 
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
 
It looked like he wet his pants!
 
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!
 
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
 
There you see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.
 
Before I make a conclusion....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.
 
-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.
 
-Always be painting a picture, appeal to all the senses when possible.
 
-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.
 
-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
 
-Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
 
-Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.
 
-Lastly and most important to sum things up.... Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.
 
Make sure they are always getting involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.
 
You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

How to Become a Masterful Storyteller

Okay guys, I know you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful.

 

Today we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

 

In “Part I” we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically. And there were two things I asked of you

 

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your personality that you want people to know about you.

 

We are going to start out working with these things.

 

For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

 

To start with, take out the list of your  7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas eliminating  the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people.

 

Reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

 

After reflecting on the 5 solid ideas, we are going to just concentrate on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

 

You may also ask your friends about which story topics they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

 

And of course I have anticipated also that there were some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

 

As I said before I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

 

Now I am going to try to debunk all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)

 

"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."

 

I know, it's an annoying story... but we can turn this into something awesome.

 

First we need to understand the Okay guys, this is "Part II" of the storytelling newsletter.

 

In "Part I" we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically.

 

Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

 

In "Part I" there were two things I asked of you

 

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

 

We are going to start out working with these things.

 

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, cross off ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories.

 

Now that you got 5 solid ideas down we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

 

To narrow it down, reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

 

For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

 

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

 

And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

 

I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

 

Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)

 

"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."

 

Okay, pretty annoying story...I know, but we can turn this into something awesome.

 

First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

 

The first component, is "The Hook Question"

 

The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved.

 

You use the hook question to captivate the group and the hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story.

 

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

 

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

 

There are two different types of hook questions.

 

An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.

 

I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

 

So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"

 

A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"

 

So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)

 

I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say

 

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"

 

Group: "blah blah"

 

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)

 

 

Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality.

 

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

 

My 5 things were:

 

I am a musician

I am a very social person

I have a high and fun energy

I have a good sense of humor

I am interested in video and photography

 

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

 

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

 

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

 

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

 

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

 

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...

 

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"

 

Group: "blah blah"

 

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

 

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

 

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

 

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

 

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

 

The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more...

 

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

 

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

 

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

 

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

 

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

 

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"

 

So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:

 

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"

 

Group: "blah blah"

 

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

 

Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.

 

HOWEVER....there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

 

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

 

The first and most important is creating check in points.

 

Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

 

Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"

 

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

 

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."

 

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.

 

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

 

An example in a passage of my story would be:

 

"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."

 

You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.

 

The first component, is "The Hook Question". And there are two different types of hook questions:

1. open ended hook question and
2. a yes or no hook question.

 

Now the object of the hook question is to captivate the attention of the group making sure everyone in you are telling the story gets involved.

 

The hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story.

 

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

 

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

 

For the two different types of hook questions I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

 

Using my story lets have an example for the two different hook questions:

 

For open ended hook question would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"

 

For a yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"

 

Now that you have the idea you can now have your own hook question to add for your example stories.

 

I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say

 

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"

 

Group: "blah blah"

 

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)

 

The next component is to demonstrate personality.

 

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

 

My 5 things were:

 

I am a very social person

I am interested in video and photography

I am a musician

I have a high and fun energy

I have a good sense of humor

 

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

 

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

 

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

 

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

 

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

 

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...

 

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"

 

Group: "blah blah"

 

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

 

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

 

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

 

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

 

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

 

The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more...

 

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

 

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

 

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

 

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

 

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

 

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"

 

So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:

 

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"

 

Group: "blah blah"

 

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

 

Now if you'll start using these three steps to your stories, you will surely gonna got some great stuff on your hands.

 

BUT WAIT ....There is still a few more sprinkles that I want to share with you and you will add this to your story someday.

 

These things are the secret little tips of a successful storyteller.

 

The first and most important is creating check in points.

 

Check in points are mini questions or lines you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

 

Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"

 

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

 

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. For example, "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."

 

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.

 

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

 

An example in a passage of my story would be:

 

"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."

 

You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A simple nod is would be okay when regaining focus of the audience.

Putting Your Story Into Action To Successfully Attract Women

Hey guys, this is now the "Part II" of the storytelling newsletter.

I know you are all excited because we will be putting it into action. And from this you will know and understand why it is so powerful.

As a review, in "Part I" we have learned the importance of storytelling and  the things we need to do in order to improve your game vastly.

And there are two things I asked of you in the first newsletter.

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

So take out those and we are going to start out with this using our own epic.

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, just remove the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories.

Reflect to that 5 solid stories of yours and then focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately. Giving focus to the ones that have the most emotional connection to you and the ones that are captivating and interesting with other people wherein in can entertained.

For now, your main target with these stories are women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story topics they find more interested in hearing, so that to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out that have list about 7-10  and only got around three, so I guess it will make your job easier now.

I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)

"The other day I went out with my friends at the club voodoo and I am having a good time roaming around and making some new friends. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."

“That is totally an annoying story!”... Yeah I know it is, but we can turn this into something awesome.
First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

1. "The Hook Question"
The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved. In using the hook question we are captivating the listener through how we deliver the hooked question to introduce your story.

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.
There are two different types of hook questions.

1. An open ended hook question ; and

2. A yes or no hook question.
I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, and a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

So a possible examples of these hook question for my story are:
Open ended hook question - "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"
Yes or No hook question - "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"

So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well) For my story I'd like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)

2 Conveying your personality
It is the second component where it demonstrate your identity and personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:
I am a musician
I am a very social person
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.
As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

3. Punch Line
Punch Line is the last component of a story. It is often used for humor and to ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more...

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.
Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"
So the updated story with the new punch line goes this ways:

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.

HOWEVER....there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

The first and most important is creating “Check in points”.

Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"

Just make sure it's not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

An example in a passage of my story would be:

"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."

You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.

Applying those component in right way can make your story of great success. So that's it for now.. and watch for the next newsletter

Dating Tips: Keeping the Girl

Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.

But I had my head up my ass.

...maybe that's a little rude.

But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:

First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I've accepted what I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But...

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?

It's all relative.

What it really comes down to is self-acceptance.

A girl won't accept you if you don't accept yourself first.

Imagine a woman waiting to be your girlfriend and there you are not liking yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because you can't really like a woman,  if you don't like yourself.  And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

Based on my experience, almost all DON'T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I'm no exception.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and tell you that you are not enough, that you must be more than you are.

The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.

Because that's you.

You are not separate from your game.

Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.

"But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward" you might be thinking. I disagree. That's not you.

That is the indistinct you.

That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape.

In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.

As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend.  It all depends on what you want.

I think of all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.

But the moment I started to accept myself and finding out what I really wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

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Managing Your Time when Meeting Women

Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there's that common phrase,  "He thinks with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and

achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my

life."

It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,

excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a

woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her

time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's another societal factor going on, that I call the "doofus dad" syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are "better."

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won't be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

When I analyzed tons and tons of dates I went on women, it was just when I realized it.

After that I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but with my FULL ATTENTION.

Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

This make my girlfriends can't get enough of me - and I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

Ask you know, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

Just be real with her - don't spend more time that you want. no need of games.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.

Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I'll have to take up in another newsletter.

It's not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

You should think that women aren't property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can "keep" her.

I want to make one more point - when you start being honest about how much time you're willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And no, we don't intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.


Vin

Pick Up Artist Secrets: Attracting a "10

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a "10", then you should read this letter.

But before anything else, let's go waaaay back...

It was in my high school, that there was a girl in my class who was seems so perfect.

She was smart, cool, and so beautiful it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn't look away)...

She was one of the popular kids, but was friendly to everyone.

Occasionally we talked and as I look back I realize that we were flirting (I was so stupid to realize at that time).

I badly wanted to ask her to a senior prom but I chickened out at the last minute.

A few years later I realized she had a crush on me all senior year.

I have talked to lot of men and this seems a common experience to them. they missed an opportunity to meet this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, or the girl had broke their heart...

Ah, the hard to tame "10," a perfect girl that every guy dream of but never seems to have it.

I have a lot to say about the concept of "10's," In deeper sense they are another "breed" of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your "perfect girl."

First of all, the concept of a "10" is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more "valuable" just because she looks nicer than other women.

A woman that turns you on and have a great chemistry with you is the only true "10" and is the one that's perfect for you.

Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10's, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because a lot of guys do that.

A woman knows what you're thinking and sees you as shallow.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another "level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

This is important to understand so that you know how to deal with these kinds of women.

As what I've said,  you shouldn't treat women "differently."

Let me clear this up.

You shouldn't treat them BETTER than other women. But there are a couple things you need to know.

First, she don't like a guy that chases her for her looks alone.

More than anything else, a woman values a guy that appreciates her personality.

Now for the sake of yours, I''ll be giving you a heads up.

There are two types of "10's."

The high self-esteem, and the low self-esteem.

The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10's. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn't EARN that attention.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sound harsh but I call it like that.

These women take away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back. They also respond to jerk-behavior.

Anything.

(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Now high self-esteem 10's are women that have had a taste of the elite -they realized early on that high levels of society were attainable to them, and they made an effort to be successful, intelligent, and make the most of their lives.

These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.

Usually these women have good attitudes, are intelligent, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

And here's another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

Because they have high standards for themselves, and since most guys are either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it's rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here's the good news. These women are the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being a "male 10," the best man you can be.

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely notice an interesting thing.

Occasionally women that are less attractive will be rude to you and you'll get an odd responses from them- that is because they know they're not on your level - I call this as Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some girls will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently...you'll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their "level."

The woman will thinks "finally, a guy who can hang with me; he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car."

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you'll also enjoy plenty of "adventures" with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are plenty of 10's out there waiting for you.

Don't spend another year of your life missing out.

Vin

Importance of Storytelling to Attract Women

I will be sharing with you today a very important and powerful subject when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of a women and anyone in your life.

This subject is no other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.

But Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling. I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.

Even if the women knows that the story is true, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling  > > >

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

Why is storytelling important > > >

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:

* Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

* Storytelling is a great way to display dominance.

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

* Storytelling develops stronger social skills.

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

* You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story. We are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be neglect. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major yet entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

I have already anticipated that there are going to be people that would say they have no interesting stories. This is absolutely not the true; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Don't be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise 2: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to construct a powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

So, just keep an eye for the next letter and get ready to really take storytelling to the on the action.