Improving Your Pick Up Ability

Managing Your Time when Meeting Women

Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there's that common phrase,  "He thinks with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and

achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my

life."

It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,

excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a

woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her

time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's another societal factor going on, that I call the "doofus dad" syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are "better."

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won't be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

When I analyzed tons and tons of dates I went on women, it was just when I realized it.

After that I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but with my FULL ATTENTION.

Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

This make my girlfriends can't get enough of me - and I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

Ask you know, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

Just be real with her - don't spend more time that you want. no need of games.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.

Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I'll have to take up in another newsletter.

It's not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

You should think that women aren't property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can "keep" her.

I want to make one more point - when you start being honest about how much time you're willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And no, we don't intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.


Vin