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Can't wait

I'm only 21 years old and I can't wait to get married. My boyfriend and I have
been going out for five years this June and he told me that I can definitely
expect an engagement ring by September, so anytime up till now he could be
popping the question. We go to the same college and won't be getting married for
a few more years, but I just want that "committed" feeling of being engaged and
so does he. If you really love one another and think about the other constantly
when you're apart, then go for it. Marriage brings lives and the lives of your
two families together; that is if both families get along, and ours do which is
great.

It's tough...

Confidence/Guys/Looks

Yes, confidence makes a person look more beautiful inside and outside.. and I'm not talking about these people who act over confident because they lack the self-esteem.. anyhow.. I started out that way.. very low self-esteem and very shy.. I'm still shy to a point, but I have a Karaoke Business which helped me gain not only self- esteem, but also the confidence I needed to run the show properly.. I mean who wants to go see a person doing Karaoke who says "next" ""next".. .and so on... I strive from the applaus I get when I sing.. and what I've learned is that it really DOESN'T matter how you look (I'm quite a bit overweight and always saw that as a hang up but not anymore)... that it DOES matter how you give yourself... and I think everybody could gain some self-esteem by doing something they love and do well and reaping the benefits of that.

On the other side, I have met some guys who are so set on thin, that they are literally rude to me... which anymore I can take well... most of the time they really have nothing for me anyway.. I'm either rude right back in those cases, or I smile at them and say "Oh, that's nice" .. I actually made a couple of friends that way...lol.

but.. .you can't win'em all, and who would want to.

Commitment with husband

I'm sorry it seems that you have been hurt in your life by men, but there are nice ones out there that DO care for relationships and that have been hurt by the women in their life... I have had many male friends who were that way.  I'm not as young as you might think I am. I'm 35 and I share my view with plenty of others.  There are just as many men who think that women are relationship shy as there are women who think men are.  If you read good books, you might want to read one that's called "He's scared she's scared" and you might find something that will help YOU built a good relationship.  It is just that book that made me quit doing what you are doing..running away from relationships, all the while thinking that it's the other party who's at fault.  We are all so easy to blame others for their faults.. it's just soo much easier than to look within our own self.  I have learned the hard way that I was the one with just as many committment problems as the guys... I think you might find the book very educational.  You seem to be the kind of woman reading the "date" book... alas "Do not call the man, let him call you!"  or "Don't tell him you love him"... Men have feelings too.  Some women have less feelings then men... are you one of those who say "All men are assholes?"  Well they're not and they have just as many feelings as we are, only they have a different way of showing them.  Ever read "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus"? You can't use all of it, but OHHHH it speaks the truth in a lot of respects.  Learn, even if you consider yourself old and wise.. you might not be as old and wise as you think.